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I was so exhausted...

Henrike Schreer • Jun 11, 2020


... that I was too busy to even notice. Functioning at full speed, until life came to a grinding halt by force.

Have you ever heard the saying "Some people need a Hi5. With a chair. In the face." ... Well, I guess that was me.


Honestly, I was in a place where I loved my life a lot. Had fun and meaning and good connections, but was also constantly tired and manically trying to keep up with my endless schedule. Somehow never quite slowing down enough to realise that what I was doing simply wasn't sustainable.


It was only in hindsight that I could see just how exhausted I had been. I realised that...


  • it wasn't normal to lie awake for hours in the evening, unable to sleep.
  • it wasn't normal to live with lower back pain every day.
  • I wasn't, in fact, responsible for  e v e r y t h i n g.
  • you should be able to go without working for a whole weekend, most weekends.
  • if I slowed down, the world wouldn't collapse.
  • cooking a nice dinner could be fun, especially if I hadn't had a 10hr work day by the time I got around to it.


Simple, huh?

And yet somehow a really big deal and not comfortable at all. You think it feels good to slow down? Well try hitting the brakes when you go at 100km/h. Not fun. But sometimes necessary to avoid a major crash.


This might strike a chord if your identity is tied up in being a high performer. If you were the successful, straight-A kid. The low maintenance teen skipping from one extracurricular activity to another and doing reasonably well in all of them. If you derive your self worth from success, performance, your smarts and/or outwardly achievements...


If that's you, and you've hit a show stopping wall like I did, welcome to the void. That quiet, timeless, floating space of nothingness, where you are already painfully aware of 'who you are not anymore', but don't quite know yet who you will be. In your rush, you might perceive this as painful, icky, boring, wrong... but what if this was the silken cocoon, and you're the butterfly in metamorphosis? What if this wasn't the end, but a new beginning...?

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